Hello I’m Janet Simpson,
I'm an experienced UK based Relationship Therapist, Coach and Trainer who specialises in developing emotional and sexual health within relationships. I am comfortable with any taboo or difficult conversation as I believe talking is the starting point for the prevention and healing of trauma. My aim is to support you create meaningful relationships in your life with a foundation based on open, honest communication which results in authentic connections, personal freedom and high levels of emotional and sexual health.
My intention is to support you to 'Be Shamelessly You' and for you to pass this on to others in the spirit of stewardship.
As a therapist and coach, I have supported couples and individuals work through a wide range of relationship issues. My areas of expertise are: emotional and sexual health, men's relationship issues, porn and sex compulsivity/addiction, sexual issues, grief and loss and couple counselling.
I take a holistic approach so when working I consider all aspects of trauma (historic, open, covert), somatic response, psychosexual influences, childhood, energetic signature, life purpose and neurological mapping.
As a trainer, I can offer education around emotional and sexual health with a focus on the impact of pornography on children and adults. My Sex Talk Roadshow is for adults who want to develop a level of sex talk confidence to support children's emotional and sexual health.
I am here to support you create healthy, meaningful relationships.
Love and self-wisdom,
My work is all about open, honest COMMUNICATION.
Why have a conversation in your head? Say what you think.
I can help you create personal FREEDOM and intimate CONNECTION in your relationships.
I can help YOU to be 'Be Shamelessly You' in or out of any relationship.
I am updating these blogs as I have lots not included - please bear with me.
Why work with me?
Studying myself, others and relationships started as a past time from as early as I can remember. This was due to 'spiritual experiences' in childhood (which I thought everyone had) and the early trauma of being adopted (feeling half of me was missing). This study of self in philosophy and psychology developed as a hobby outside of my educational work.
In 2015, it became my full time profession. Of which, I love!
I HAVE PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL EXPERTISE.
After an relationship experience with a so called porn or sex addict (really a compulsive user of sex and porn), I focused all my attention in working out why I felt so broken and what the essence of a loving, meaningful partnership was.
I recognised I had multiple layers of sexual shame due to several traumatic experiences as a child and adult. Part of this trauma was held dormant due to a lack of communication around sex and sexuality. In a way, I was like a sexual mute. It wasn't until I started talking about sex and creating an understanding around my erotic landscape that I felt liberated.
This led to an expertise in sex, porn use and relationships with a understanding of intimacy, a deep sense of compassion for men and a value for the three key components of a most satisfying relationship:
open, honest communication, value of personal freedom and intimate connection.
I ONLY OFFER WHAT I KNOW TO BE TRUE FROM EXPERIENCE.
Due to being adopted, I created a powerful inner critic with an extreme voice of comparison to avoid being rejected and abandoned again. This was mostly unconscious until it was dramatically revealed in full force through betrayal trauma. The chronic shame of being ME led to debilitating illness.
Another key reason why I am all about stripping back the layers created from the messages of life to ...
BE SHAMELESSLY YOU!
I am now healthy, contented and virtually trigger free even in the most challenging of situations - if you have a family these happen so learning to love the unexpected, gain wisdom from trauma and to self regulate quickly is essential.
I CAN FIND OPPORTUNITY AND WISDOM IN ANY TRAUMA OR CRISIS POINT
From my professional work, I have wealth of experiences working with individuals, couples and groups in schools, NHS, private practice and in a local hospice. You will find a list at the bottom of on my 'Be Shamelessly You' page.
I WORK FROM MY HEART TO SERVE YOU AND THE CREATION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS